Decisions determine who you are, end of story. I still think we shouldnt use the numbers as judgement because what happens to the woman who does not have a conflicting view with that man on relationships, yet she does have high numbers. Its only beta males, and soft men who have been brainwashed by feminism, or who attempt to co-opt these arguments in order to get into womens pants, who are ok dating sluts. although Ive had my fair share partners i dont like a woman who has. You understand, but at the same time, cant do anything to change That is why at the very beginning I say I think it is best for people to wait with sex. Whereas for a woman to sleep around, she has risks of raising a child, she takes that risk when sleeping around even with contraception for her own emotional desires See more The woman can claim child support from the dad, and having a baby is a 2 way thing. You have a handful of female experience and all you do is wonder about her past. If she is good enough to be with before that number was discovered, then she should be good enough after the fact. Thinking about it more actually I should just avoid these jokes as it could be an avenue for the toxicity to leak out. Master Age: 48 , mho 32%. I never went out to get laid. Now if a guy has a lot and the girl has a lot too, it is equal ground imho. I continued to live. If someone says he has slept with 100 women, who is sleeping around more, the Men or the Women? More and more women than ever before are Sleeping around. Trust me I completely understand that most of us would prefer our partners didnt have active sex lives prior to being with us. We told the truth and we understood each other. MANY women who love sex also have self-respect, and choose to save that wonderful sex for relationships, and loved ones. As it relates to this post I believe that a womans number of sexual partners does matter for a few reasons. cant hold it against the woman I love. Just go. To be patient with you and Understand her past and evaluate her for the woman she is today, not who she once was. Education can do wonders! Hope you can shed your toxic/red pill/PUA thoughts and beliefs. So if he is still able to find happiness with her when he is not aware of the true number, I just dont see why the number being revealed later should now change everything. it just kills me that women be the main one judging other women. Do you know women feel the same about men sometimes. To me there was no perfect guy except for in fairy tales and even then some of the princes had problems. And possessive so I stopped having sex with them. And women can go a long way in updating the image of women in society. Just that the second one gets paid for it? 151 views, 6 likes, 8 loves, 22 comments, 4 shares, Facebook Watch Videos from Miller Memorial Baptist Church: Sunday, February 26, 2023~ Reverend. Judging right away could end up getting in the way of an opportunity to know a really great person. As for a woman leading you on to believe she passed that stage, well she may just not have wanted to let you pass her by even though she knows she wasnt ready. So does that mean that once you accumulate some baggage that you are stuck with it forever? Well at least the second one could get justified by necessity Would you marry a prostitute? contraception. Others may have been dealing with some deep issues and did not know how to properly handle it. Also as I stated, women know that regardless of this article most men will judge them. You seem to be fairly obsessed yourself, and I seem to be controlling your time and responses today. Thoughtful. Amen brother. If you are confident, you will be more understanding of others. But also it could be my way of redirecting these thoughts gently as you've put it. A mess you gonna have these women out here single and lonely.. Lol hold up, I didnt write Why I go through his phone that was a guest blogger (OnlyOneHeaven.com) but I did write this article. Fast forward to today, now you have a bunch of people who get married without knowing who they are, what they want, and who they think they deserve. Women need to get it together!!!! While you are Dating or trying to marry a woman who have lived life and around 35+ age and then you realized you are just a number and may be not. We dont know what that woman may have been going through or her full reasons for her choices. And marrying a male whore would not be my choice either! On the other side, the woman may have fallen in love and had relationships of deep feeling for each of these partners. If you were full of life and it was so great and wonderful then you would ADMIT IT WITHOUT BEING ASHAMED. People seem to forget that we all make choices that others deem questionable so none of us should judge or look down on others for their choices. Thats it! I just hope everyone receives it correctly, Respect his article but I totally disagree. Every self-respecting guy I know does not want to settle down with a whore, and would respect a woman less if he learned she had 100 former partners vs. say 8. Love isnt about sex. I just dont think using her past to override who she is today is the best approach. I dont want a woman that thinks that giving herself up so easy is how its supposed to be. To say she is damaged goods is a misnomer because you assume that her worth is completely controlled by her sexuality and how she uses it. If shes cheated on 8 of her previous boyfriends then Im sorry but I think its valid to question her loyalty. kidsbut things were crazy for me four years ago. We would also need to I hope your relationship benefits greatly from it. Everyone thinks they want to sleep with pure uncorrupted virgins or whatever, but I honestly think the only reason anyone wants to sleep with a virgin, or is opposed to sleeping with someone with more experience, all comes down to insecurity. Personally, my vengeance on society telling me what to think about sex is to have as much of it as I can. So shes had a lot of partners at the same time in the past- if everyone in the situation knew what was up (that there was no expectation of monogamy), then theres no harm to it! relationships because they are so used to casual sex that theyve Most people have past sexual histories, but hiding them from someone that you are supposed to love and trust is setting oneself up for failure in the future. Interesting. life. The fact that men are completely excused from this behavior while women are chastised for it left and right is just amazing to me. 20 partners in 50 years (of being single)? Ive been through it, luckily with no children involved, and Ive known others whove gone through. Wow, as more as I read your answers as more I agree on what you say I am afraid puppycat feels remorse for something has she been honest with her man about her past????? I agree that we should know our partners past so that we may have a better understanding of who they are today. Ive been involved with both chaste and promiscuous women. Lots of heartache there. And them same niggas see her walking around town with you..smmfh Hell Naw!!! Press J to jump to the feed. However, promiscuity is not gender based. Women who choose to be sluts make their beds, and must lie in them. And, after that, he paid the most endearing miraculous amazing act on our behalf. Obviously, the sexual freedom we How quaint. Im not the same person now, and I know what I did is wrong, so obviously, there should be no consequences for my past behavior. I never agreed with the cant turn a hoe into a housewife Because a man being a player is just a nice word for manwhore. It is a misconception and must be updated to reflect women as real human beings and not abstract ideals. Remember that life is full of gray and there are many reasons people do the things they do. Still, a pregnancy or disease can and does occur. Not everyone is like me but some people are and you never know who you will fall in love with in the future. If youre honest more than likely you wouldnt. It doesnt matter where Ive worked, or what my experience is, or how successful I have been at what Ive done. number is half your age. So if your 30 and you had sex with 15 people, I say But since sex is expensive for women, she gets to choose. Its the woman you wanted. To bring you back to reality, realize that every man has both sides to this coin. When we dont heal from our past and address our issues we will likely set ourselves up fro more problems later. I actually thought it was clever. SO DONT SAY WOMEN COULD NEVER HAVE THESE INSECURITIES AS WELL BECAUSE THEY COULD. Women on the other hand get slandered, disrespected, and chastised for their choice to be promiscuous at any point in their lives. Much more women than ever are sleeping around these days. I feel like I'm just in her head sometimes lmao. I like her a lot cause she is smart, funny, outgoing, pretty, and we just have the exact same sense of humor and get along better than I do with almost anyone in my life as we're really similar people. Thank you for your comment it is one of the most spot on and helpful in the thread. Your email address will not be published. For example, if your first sexual experience is a violent one, pain could cause you to become numb sexually and emotionally. to sex or you just think sex is okay and doesnt affect people much. personal advocate now and then intervening for me. The experiences you're concerned about are, well, XP, and in that regard she's a high-level operator. Stephan, I am intrigued by your comment that you disagree that promiscuity is what has caused the highest divorce rate America has ever seen. There is a current trend not only in the U.S., but also in the UK called the marriage strike.A lot of men will not marry because of fear of divorce initiated by women who are unable to stay connected emotionally to their husbands (due to a high number of sexual partners) and therefore seek comfort else where. if you settled your butt down and took pride in yourself you wouldnt be in those problems the vows say for better or worse or richer or poor people need to grow the hell up and start taking that into consideration im a male and i only been with 3 women one who has been with more men than me and she couldnt stop trying to find flaws and better in a man im not a operation game broad im human like any one else and these foolish women need to come to terms wit themselves. Inability to cope with stress, lack of problem solving skills, and an unwillingness to compromise would be the most likely culprits in such a situation. There are so many things that enrage me about this article and the post below that I dont know where to begin Let me begin by saying that I am infuriated by the ignorance that surrounds this topic and the comments below. Maybe you just don't understand why she does it? His name is Jesus Christ. others have been hurt that bad or that many times by c*nts (male or female) that they just stay single. But it seems like you want to get over those beliefs, because you recognize there is something wrong with them. How about judging a woman by her mind, her intelligence and her kindness? Not all of those events are going to be good in retrospect, but not all will be bad either. Some guys don't want something that was shared by several others. Just look at them in the same light. Thank you, Lord, for what you have done that we couldnt do for ourselves. I haven't really said anything about this stuff to her and have been avoiding it like the fucking plague cause I don't want this toxicity to leak out. We have had this conversation. What girl will you marry? Of course no one solution applies to all. Yeahman, if I were you I'd just take this whole things easy and use the time to work on myself. In fact, I see more women who regret marrying young than I see women regret marrying in their 30s. Unless you are interested in being swingers, your best bet would be to only get involved with someone who has a solid sense of morality. I say this all the time! 20, 30 or more men is wrong then I hope you take that same logic and school your boy on that too because every time she opens her legs to someone there is always a man willing to climb between them, and that makes him just as ho -ish following your logic. I agree with you completely, and applaud you for being able to be abstinent again. Whores will always be Whores no matter how you look at it. The funny part is research shows it has always been about the same, it was just that Women were able to hide it better. For former redpillers and others who recognize the damage caused by redpill. It only hurts her to vent. And if I never read this post again and some young man is dealing with the same situation. I love reading your articles, please keep them coming. And i was the very faithful one by the way which meant nothing to that loser Ex wife of mine at one time. That scares me more than anything else. Where to begin The average women doesnt care. Shadow Hunter-Is a depressed life worth living. Any guy walking around claiming to be the son of God, with convincing ID, should be locked up or exterminates..By the way, that goers for child molesters also, such as the Prophet Mohommid. For instance a girl had sex with 20 men(but we dont know numbers) and they were all her boyfriends then in that case she wouldnt be a hoe. The Student Room and The Uni Guide are trading names of The Student Room Group Ltd. Register Number: 04666380 (England and Wales), VAT No. Thank goodness the world is full of people with different view points, and a moderate amount of people who are willing to scratch below the surface. You have always been a dreamer, but you've never thought that your dreams will come true. You have your opinions, and they are just that your opinion, and I have my opinion. She is still the same woman she was before she told you the number, the only difference is how you will now choose to process it and treat her. I see what you're saying about burning the toxic feelings and I agree 100% I want to get rid of them and out of this mindset very badly and even from what I've read thus far this thread and people input have helped me to frame my thoughts a lot. These men typically have low self-esteem, cannot get better, are older and desperate, or simply have no other options. And no, the man is not estimating. Yes the thing I am most worried about is her cheating on me as her promiscuity could be a reflection of that. I understand more and more why God restricted it to marriage. many issues that person will have from having sex with so many people. Stop sleeping around IMMEDIATELY if these are your values and what you want from another person, otherwise you're not allowed to be hypocritical. If you arent proud of your number when I asked by a potential life partner, you could be a slut. You wont be fully satisfied until youve found every single one of those great qualities all bunched up into one person. issue out, then you should get out. upbringing etc. It will all be fake just to keep the sex around. that will always be what it is and now you know it is most likely to be a What I want to encourage you to do is to understand what is done is done. So If her numbers are that high, tyou would move out of town to avoid her many past lovers? It took some time to realize I had to get myself together and I did even though at times its truly a hard task to look at myself in the mirror and thinking that anyone could love me I am still here and trying to do my best. Second, women are heavily criticized for having a lot of partners because they the ones making the final decision. I don't see any way that telling her my feelings about this ends well. That is one of the biggest decisions a person can ever make, and it would be ridiculous to not look at how that person has actually lived his/her life. i could never date no one thats slept with a lot of people. I have self-esteem. Am a runs girl last month but now a millionaire today. understand where youre coming from, and just give you a chance? Although hes been with girls that are tighter than I, he comes quicker, harder, and more intensely and immensely because of his emotional towards me. to pass on genes in males). THIS IS LIFE. This sort of behavior is causing the highest divorce rate America has ever seen. In fact our sex life is BLAZIN hot because we both have so many tricks and we are both so open to try new things. And, if many guys were blatantly honest with themselves and others, they would probably admit to being more promiscuous than their significant others. Good for you dear, Im happy for you, and your relationship, but the fact is, the more partners a woman has had, the less likely her marriage is to last. I mean, women are choosing the dumb guys that happen to be physically fit and can maybe dance. But if your going to get seriously involved physical and emotionally with someone come clean. It has nothing to do with risks of STDs in my book, because, as you say, one can get tested. You are the very reason Stefan was inspired to write this article. I dont think anyone is saying (Im not) that a persons number is the /only/ factor is deciding whether or not to take someone seriously as relationship material, but it is /a/ factor, and a major one, for many men. Never thought at 39 there would be so many issues when going into a relationship but I am learning quickly. So the inability to stay connected many times stems from the fact that their never was a connection to begin with. Funny how the women who think number shouldnt matter have all slept with a lot of people. I will say though, that a persons past is their past and a more salient question is how many people have you slept with in the last year? or what is your attitude to sex right now?. Copyright The Student Room 2023 all rights reserved. Some women know how to take care of themselves in a way that would cause you to have no clue how much wear and tear they may have. Its just not allowed. Its not about being flawless and perfect. From my experience and what i have seen the way a person behaves is a big issue. Sometimes the reason the car had a lot of owners is because its a well made car rather than the cars made these days to only last two years before you have to junk it and buy a new one. Most women these days DO have lots of experience. This function is innate to humans and does not become desensitized. They tend not to make good or reliable wives or mothers. If you find someone that loves you, supports you, and that you love and aregenuinely happy being around dont let the number of sexual partners that person has had force you to leave someone who was perfect for you. Some of us have led quite successful lives, and have leisure time. Women are raised differently from men and each carry different values. irrelevance of your girlfriend/wifes number of sexual partners is you have issues so you didnt have problems with your wife introducing you to her exs and flirting with them..?? 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